Have you been wondering why they don’t mess with you when it comes to a second date?
How about you? How are you doing? You look lovely.
At least according to science:
[Researchers at Stanford University and the University of California, Santa Barbara] ran free speed dating events for (heterosexual) grad students in which they recorded what everyone said. After the date, the grad students reported how well they “clicked” with their partners for roughly 1,000 four-minute conversations.
The data showed that women felt more connected when men were actively engaged in the conversation and focused on them. Women were more likely to feel connected
- when men “mimicked their laughter” (meaning they laughed right after the woman laughed, not made fun of their laugh),
- “interrupted them” (also not what it sounds like – asked questions to show they were paying attention),
- and used the word “you.”
Remember, it’s not “Do me,” it’s “I want to do you.”
[Via The Washington Post]