Check out Tae Heckard’s latest night club picture and interview talking about her status with Nelly inside.
Check out her edgemagazinesite interview below.
What would you say are the misconceptions about your part of the industry?
My look is based on how I feel on any given day. I don’t like to match because I’m a natural rebel. If I’m having a bad day, the first person who should make me feel better is me, so I’ll wear something ridiculous just to see people’s reaction. I’ll put on green lipstick and walk around Rodeo Drive just to watch people stare so I can laugh.
I don’t mind people speculating on who he could be. I’m not secretive. It’s not like we don’t go out or that you can’t see us, I’m just private. If you see us out you can assume whatever you want, if you never see us you can just keep guessing. Usually I do it for fun just to get people worked up, so I’ll show parts of him or blur out his face. Am I really going to show him? No. Have we been in highly public places together? Yes. But I’m not an attention seeker. If you happen to see us then you happen to see us.
After having been through past relationships what makes this one so special?
I get to put my foot down and be me. One thing women often do is beg. “If you love me” or “you have to show me…”, it’s a demand or a bargain. It should be natural. As much as it may hurt sometimes, you’ve got to let a person be exactly who they are and if you can’t do that and still love them…you need to be done with that relationship. At the end of the day you’re not going to be happy if they’re doing things just to appease you, you’re going to want them to do it automatically. That’s how we are as women. It shouldn’t take you threatening to leave or find someone else. You shouldn’t have to hold threats over a man’s head in order for him to love you the way you deserve. When a couple comes together and they really mesh, there’s a give and take without it being ordered. I have that. I’ve put aside my ego, my past and my fears—he’s done the same. You have to do a complete cleanse and you have to be an adult about what you feel and about what the other person feels. I can look at the person I’m with now and see him being a father to my children. I can see building a life with him. In the past, I was concerned about us “looking good” together.
I’ve done everything I’ve wanted to do. I’m all about trying on different hats to see if they fit. If it doesn’t fit, I take it off and I don’t try that again. No regrets. Even in bad situations, I’ve learned something.
I want people to say that I made them smile. I want them to say that I was a good person. I don’t have no ill intent towards anyone in my heart. I don’t want to know your business but I do want to see you happy. I want to do everything to make you happy, if it’s in my power. That’s important to me. I want people to know that and feel that from me.